3 Tips to Shut down “Haters”

3 Tips to Shut down “Haters”

A lot of times people talk shit about us or hate on us for no reason.

And it is only human to react to these haters by defending ourselves verbally or through subtle social posts. (Yeah I know you do this )

But at the end of the day, insulting them on social media or secretly praying for their downfall will NOT solve anything. It slowly turns into an uphill battle and you will never win. You know why???

These haters are jobless, so they have all the time in the world.

These 3 tips will save you all the headaches and emotional drama. Thank me later 🙂

Visualize what you want.

If you are going to make them shut up then you gonna have to figure out what you want from life and go about the business of doing it. Know what you want, Visualize it and do whatever it takes to make it happen.

Focus on your goal.

Once you have figured out what you want then you need to bring all your focus to your goal. You need focus as much as you need air to breathe, else you will get dragged into their jobless life and start believing their crappy talk and you may start to develop self doubt. You don’t want that do you? 

Work hard.

Don’t waste your precious time (which by the way is very limited) on haters by engaging them with their pettiness. Work very hard to make your goals come true so that while you are smiling to the bank they can be depressed and eat their words back.

Be Successful.

There is a popular saying that success makes haters keep their mouth shut. As simple and cliche as it sounds it is very true. When you show them that their shitty talk means nothing to you and you prove that by being very  successful no matter what they say about you, they will have no choice but to shut up and respect you.

As always leave your comment below and tell me if any of these tips were helpful, even if you have a different way to deal with haters let me know as well.

Love Always


4 Traits the Modern Woman Wants in Her Man!!

4 Traits the Modern Woman Wants in Her Man!!


Most times men complain about women not knowing what they want especially the kind of men they want.

But in my line of work , I am blessed to talk to a lot of ladies about this issue and they seem to be precise about the kind of men they want.

So I said to myself, either the men chose to pretend not to listen to what women are saying or there is definitely something going on.

Anyway I compiled this list of the top 4 traits that the modern 21st century women really wants in a guy.


Most 21st century ladies are attracted to money and ambition. I get it.

That being said, most of them are also setting big goals and working so hard to also make their own money, so it is only fair that you aren’t a bum and by bum I mean sitting in the house all day waiting for your woman to bring food to the table (oh yes this happens) OR being satisfied with your current position and no future plans to move forward.

Be ambitious, work hard, have a plan and purpose and get on with the business of achieving it.


While women love ambitious, goal-getter men, however an ambitious man with no compassion is so unacceptable. It’s like trying to start a car without an engine , I mean if you drive or have been driven you know its impossible to start a car without an engine.

These days a lot of men seem to replace care and thoughtfulness for ambition. They think that if they are very ambitious then NO need for care, attention and thoughtfulness. It is no mistake that a lot of “ambitious” men cannot hold a real woman down because they believe their money is enough to keep her.

But a real woman knows what she’s worth. She knows that no amount of money can buy her love. No amount of money can buy her affection. If she loves you she loves you all the way, money in the bank or not. All she needs is for you to show her respect and reciprocate her love rather than the assumption that buying her luxurious gifts will keep her.

It’s no surprise that such men these days settle for less, I call them the fast-food girls. You know the kinda girls that are only a phone call away. (I shall not go into too much details about those girls in the post, I will save it for the next post 🙂

Integrity: Ladies want men with integrity.

A man can have all the “Abs” in the world, spend almost 24 hours in the gym but if your integrity is zero, then I don’t give a damn.

Why would you put so much effort on how you look and zero effort on your integrity? Abs can get you a date with a girl but your integrity determines if she keeps you or not.

Personality. Please don’t be a drag!! Women want a guy who is fun to hang around with not just leave her to carry on with the conversation.

There is something that attracts the modern woman to that man with a great personality. And please guys don’t be shy, let your real self shine through. Be different. Be creative. Be you.

Can you relate with any of theses traits? or is there a trait that I didn’t discuss here?

As always, let me know your thoughts in the comment section and of course share with your friends, you never know who needs this message.



P.S- Guys its not so hard!! Just put in some effort 🙂




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