Have you ever been through tough times and you think the devil and his cohorts are LITERALLY out to get you?
Like you just want to throw in the towel and forget about life? Have you ever felt liked you have worked so hard for something and it just wasn’t working out the way you planned?
Well that was me last weekend and I was beginning to think negative thoughts like “well maybe this isn’t for me” maybe I am not good enough to get it blah blah you know how it goes downhill from there.
I completely shut down, fast forward 3 days later, to avoid going insane I picked up my phone and called one of the few people in this world that I can trust with my life. Speaking of support system, if by now you don’t have a proper support system then you should, there is nothing better than having people who encourage you in your down times, it helps.
She cheered me up but I still felt a little upset, I still did not feel 100% right
I tried to put on my big girl pants and act tough but I noticed one thing…
I still did not feel better.
And then I had an aha moment like Oprah would say, and immediately I dropped the act and decided to be. Just be in the moment. To take it all in , even though bad but just take it in and trust that this too shall pass and guess what? It did.
So here is my question for you: Are you hiding your true feelings (even though admitting it might hurt you)? Are you masking your feelings behind a smile, you smile around with everyone but within you are choking with hurt, pain, or disappointment?
I urge you to take a moment right now. Yeah now, and receive it, I am not saying you should allow it dwell in you and remain there forever, “receiving it” means that you acknowledge that it is there and you are ready to heal, hiding or pretending or ignoring might help you temporarily but the real problem will persist until you face it head strong and deal with it.
Acknowledge, receive and remember this too shall pass. By now you know the drill, please leave your comments below, I love to read them and also remember to tag and share with your friends who might be going through some tough times, you never know this post can help them too.
I would leave you with this “When life gives you lemons make some lemonade+add sugar and be damn sure to invite your friends over for a lemonade party. Happiness is a choice and I choose to be happy. Will ya?”
A lot of times people talk shit about us or hate on us for no reason.
And it is only human to react to these haters by defending ourselves verbally or through subtle social posts. (Yeah I know you do this )
But at the end of the day, insulting them on social media or secretly praying for their downfall will NOT solve anything. It slowly turns into an uphill battle and you will never win. You know why???
These haters are jobless, so they have all the time in the world.
These 3 tips will save you all the headaches and emotional drama. Thank me later 🙂
Visualize what you want.
If you are going to make them shut up then you gonna have to figure out what you want from life and go about the business of doing it. Know what you want, Visualize it and do whatever it takes to make it happen.
Focus on your goal.
Once you have figured out what you want then you need to bring all your focus to your goal. You need focus as much as you need air to breathe, else you will get dragged into their jobless life and start believing their crappy talk and you may start to develop self doubt. You don’t want that do you?
Don’t waste your precious time (which by the way is very limited) on haters by engaging them with their pettiness. Work very hard to make your goals come true so that while you are smiling to the bank they can be depressed and eat their words back.
There is a popular saying that success makes haters keep their mouth shut. As simple and cliche as it sounds it is very true. When you show them that their shitty talk means nothing to you and you prove that by being very successful no matter what they say about you, they will have no choice but to shut up and respect you.
As always leave your comment below and tell me if any of these tips were helpful, even if you have a different way to deal with haters let me know as well.
Most times men complain about women not knowing what they want especially the kind of men they want.
But in my line of work , I am blessed to talk to a lot of ladies about this issue and they seem to be precise about the kind of men they want.
So I said to myself, either the men chose to pretend not to listen to what women are saying or there is definitely something going on.
Anyway I compiled this list of the top 4 traits that the modern 21st century women really wants in a guy.
Most 21st century ladies are attracted to money and ambition. I get it.
That being said, most of them are also setting big goals and working so hard to also make their own money, so it is only fair that you aren’t a bum and by bum I mean sitting in the house all day waiting for your woman to bring food to the table (oh yes this happens) OR being satisfied with your current position and no future plans to move forward.
Be ambitious, work hard, have a plan and purpose and get on with the business of achieving it.
While women love ambitious, goal-getter men, however an ambitious man with no compassion is so unacceptable. It’s like trying to start a car without an engine , I mean if you drive or have been driven you know its impossible to start a car without an engine.
These days a lot of men seem to replace care and thoughtfulness for ambition. They think that if they are very ambitious then NO need for care, attention and thoughtfulness. It is no mistake that a lot of “ambitious” men cannot hold a real woman down because they believe their money is enough to keep her.
But a real woman knows what she’s worth. She knows that no amount of money can buy her love. No amount of money can buy her affection. If she loves you she loves you all the way, money in the bank or not. All she needs is for you to show her respect and reciprocate her love rather than the assumption that buying her luxurious gifts will keep her.
It’s no surprise that such men these days settle for less, I call them the fast-food girls. You know the kinda girls that are only a phone call away. (I shall not go into too much details about those girls in the post, I will save it for the next post 🙂
Integrity: Ladies want men with integrity.
A man can have all the “Abs” in the world, spend almost 24 hours in the gym but if your integrity is zero, then I don’t give a damn.
Why would you put so much effort on how you look and zero effort on your integrity? Abs can get you a date with a girl but your integrity determines if she keeps you or not.
Personality. Please don’t be a drag!! Women want a guy who is fun to hang around with not just leave her to carry on with the conversation.
There is something that attracts the modern woman to that man with a great personality. And please guys don’t be shy, let your real self shine through. Be different. Be creative. Be you.
Can you relate with any of theses traits? or is there a trait that I didn’t discuss here?
As always, let me know your thoughts in the comment section and of course share with your friends, you never know who needs this message.
P.S- Guys its not so hard!! Just put in some effort 🙂